Do you sometimes feel you've been taken for granted?? If you don't then good for you, cuz i know i always feel it. Call me paranoid, insecure or whatever, but the feelings are just there....
I have some friends who only call me when they need help. And when they are enjoying themselves, you dont even hear a word from them....I wonder if these people consider you as friends or just someone who they can rely or depend on...Out of sight, out of mind!
Or friends who only use you?? and when they are done with you, you don't even see their faces anymore. They are gone as if you were never there...
Or maybe backstabbers?? People who are nice and all that in front of you, but go around behind your back, saying mean things about you.....saying that you mean so much to them, but in reality they don't want to be your friend...
Maybe i'm making a big fuss out of this small matter, but it really hurts when you realise that all the above is happening to you.
Its not that i dont have friends. I have many friends who are amazing, we hang out together, laugh together, share our problems and stuff or maybe even cry together, and i love them dearly...They mean so much to me...
It may be that having friends who love you dearly and friends who use you, is all about keeping the balance. So that you don't get big headed and stay humble, knowing that there are people who hate you.
The book "He's Just Not That Into You" is targeted to love relationship, but i guess it applies here too....Friends you are into you and friends who are just not that into you....???
Maybe having friends with "no strings attached" is the best?? Then you wont have any expectations from you friends and no commitment, just "hi-bye"... But i know i'll be lonely without my friends.
This maybe a little too much, but i guess you'll see your true friends during you're funeral....They'll be there if you mean something to them....
5 comments:
that is so sad but true babe :(
friends like that dont deserve your time or your attention or your anything. i guess we can take it as a reminder to ourselves to treasure those close to our hearts, and not to be like one of those people who take their friends for granted.
may, ur not alone. i experienced it too. i think yes the best is not to put in too much of effort. i mean, u put iin effort in calling and stuffs but after a while u get tired. most of them lost in their self absorbtion til it's too late. surprisingly for me, most of the time...most of them will come crawling back to u and start call u out while u dun even give a shit anymore. i bet what goes around, comes around; what goes up, must come down? :)
Just do what you love the most. As for me yeah i do have friends like that but i dun treat them different. I still treat them the same cos for me I strive to make more friends not enemies.
hyea may.. ive been there.. still there as a matter of fact! huhu. hurts the most when u consider him/her as one of ur good or closest or bestest fren and tis the treatment u get in return, doesnt it? sigh. join the club. and may? if i ever treat u that way, im sorry i dont mean to, and just smack me right in the face and tell me to straighten up, aite? *hugs*
O_o me luvs smacking girls! lolx
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